by Carmine Amaro
Everyone has that one thing in their lives that they struggle with. For example, weight, smoking, being a couch potato etcetera. My main battle throughout my life has been becoming organised.
I have probably googled more sites on how to be organised than any other subject. I just always seem to have too many things on my plate. As a result, I always seem to be late, skimp on looking after myself and misplacing things. But somehow I always get to the end of the day feeling like I have not done enough or that somehow I am not fulfilled. Amid this there are the obvious signs of struggling to keep things in check: like that wardrobe that’s always only half organised. Losing things! All. The. Time!
You ask why someone would want to live like this, but I assure you, I am not the only one. It seems that unconsciously we are all told to give more of ourselves. A modern, successful man or woman is supposed to be well educated, a high earner, constantly juggling commitments and responsibilities, and a social success. In the quest to get ahead we often lose our own happiness (and sanity). I thought that my problem was that I was not organised but as I tried to fix my clumsy scheduling with various techniques and “5 step programs” I realized that there are more deeper issues involved here.
I was trying to please everyone else! For instance I would be available to all and sundry at the drop of a hat at THEIR convenience: after all, we are taught to put everyone ahead of ourselves, right? Secondly, I filled my plate with every project that came along because I did not want to pass up an opportunity- because opportunities are limited and I didn’t want to be left behind. And thirdly, I believed that sleep was for the dead. These are all misguided beliefs that ultimately rob you of your purpose in life because you will always focus on things to do instead of giving any thought of what’s truly important to you.
So instead of micro managing myself, I decided to take the following tips, which I want to share with you:
Have priorities: This means knowing what goals are more important to you. Only pick a certain amount of goals so you don’t get buried under them. Pick enough goals to keep you challenged and allow you to do each one well. This means you may have to say no to less important things. Just say “NO”.
Plan, Plan, Plan: Know what you would like to accomplish by the end of the year, month, week, day…. and then Reassess. It’s ok to extend your “deadlines” on your personal goals if you are not coping or unexpected issues or priorities come up. It’s also ok to realise that something you thought was important, fulfilling or profitable no longer meets your goals and you want to move on.
Take care of yourself: Make yourself a priority! If you do not look after yourself you won’t be able to accomplish anything. Take time to listen to what feels right for you. Plan to have fun! Make sure you are still connected to what you do. Work hard, then slow down. Know the value of time. Know the value of yourself.
We only have a limited amount of time in our lives. So we need to be mindful of what we do with it. We all have things that bring the highest value to ourselves and the people around us. Find out what you value most and organise your time around it. You’ll be glad you did!
I am an audio engineer working in broadcasting. I have many interests including music (I play the piano), running and traveling. I am also an active member of The International Association of Women in Television and Radio, a group of women who strive to open up opportunities for other women in the industry. I believe that every person has the right to develop fully in every area of their lives regardless of the stereotypes that society imposes on them. I am particularly interested in how the media portrays minority groups and women and the implications this has on social behaviour. I will be getting getting the conversation started about how to challenge stereotypes and break the mold. My aim is to inspire women to be authentic – the best version of themselves. You were born original- don’t die a copy!
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